Is Facebook Bad For Early Addiction and Alcoholism Recovery?

by Dick on April 22, 2012 · 10 comments

in Addiction, Alcoholism, Recovery

Pictures Of Cocktails And Drunk Karaoke On My News Feed Will Be Blocked!

My usual Sunday morning internet routine consists of checking my Facebook feed from the night before — Saturday night — an often dreaded night for those in early recovery. (I always go to my Saturday Night Live AA meeting, so I’m always cool).

I have over a 1,000 Facebook friends. Although I’m married with two kids, a bunch of my friends are still in party mode, often posting pictures of their weekend night drunkenness. Actually, the weird thing is the biggest offenders are my “mom” friends who have a penchant of posting pictures of the cocktails they are drinking, which then turns into drunk iPhone candid camera of their drunken girls nights out. Reminds me of the old “party pics” in my college fraternity days…I can only imagine that it is a lot worse for younger recovering persons.

Well, I admit that it bothers the heck out of me now that I’m in recovery. I’m going to an AA meeting with a bunch of drunks on Saturday night, while these drunk housewives are having a good time out on the town! Ok, pity party is over. (Of course, I’m up early on Sunday with no hangover!).

I am now starting to block these drunken chicks from my News Feed. I don’t need to see pictures of Cosmos or whatever girly concoction they are drinking. I don’t need to see them doing their best Dancing Queen impressions or awful karaoke at the local Chinese food place. That doesn’t help my early recovery.

So, block, block, block the Drunk Moms I go….

How to you guys deal with drinking and partying on your Facebook? I will point out that blogging and Twitter has been great for my recovery, and I’ve met a lot of recovering friends online. My old Facebook friends, not so much…

~Dick

 

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  • guest

    Hi Dick – I came across your blog via Mrs. D’s.  It is so nice to find a ‘sober lawyer’ new to the rooms.  I am a civil litigator and got sober in AA in March 2011 – in large part by stumbling into Alcholic Attorney on Lawyerist (you linked to one of those posts downstream).  I just read through all your posts – love the blog, and am glad to hear you are doing well this day :).   I look forward to reading more of your posts – thanks for putting them up!       

    • http://twitter.com/SoberLawyer Sober Lawyer

       Hi fellow counselor! Thanks for stopping by. If you are on Twitter, follow me at http://twitter.com/soberlawyer

      Otherwise, please stop by once and awhile, and let me know what sober blogs you read.

  • http://belowhermeans.wordpress.com/ B. (Below Her Means)

    The answer to your blog’s subject title is yes. I am VERY newly sober (as in, five days) and trying to hang on with all my might. I’m also only 29 years old. I’m white knuckling it at this point.

    • http://twitter.com/SoberLawyer Sober Lawyer

       Hey, hang in there. It does get better. Are you going to any meetings, etc.?

      • http://belowhermeans.wordpress.com/ B. (Below Her Means)

         I’m not. The AA culture doesn’t speak to me, I’m more of the Rational Recovery frame of mind. Giving up booze entirely for long while to determine if it’s an issue and get some perspective. It’s getting a bit easier every day.

        • http://twitter.com/SoberLawyer Sober Lawyer

           Have you ever been to an AA or other recovery group meeting? It’s been very helpful for me, although I don’t believe in all the doctrine. Read my post: http://www.soberlawyer.com/2012/02/20/power-in-numbers-why-i-think-alcoholics-anonymous-works/

          Meetings of any kind are helpful so you don’t feel alone and get some support.

          Why are you giving up booze exactly? Can you articulate all the reasons? You have all the information right now “to determine if it’s an issue.”  Good luck.

  • http://twitter.com/jatheisen8 Julie Theisen

    I found facebook really hard to have in early recovery. I use my Twitter soley for recovery people which has been helpful. I get jealous at others can go out and whoop it up at times, but then I try to remember all the times I wanted to die while I was using. I block people who are my “party” friends. I try to ignore posts about “the beer after work”. It’s hard but doable. 

  • Kristen

    When I first got sober, I was way into Twitter. So many people I followed talked about getting drunk, being hungover, etc. At first, I missed it. Later, I saw it as sad. The moms were the worst culprits…I’m surprised how socially acceptable it is to admit you’re putting your kids to bed early to get shitfaced, but I can’t be too judgey here. Scaling back from twitter, facebook, instagram, etc has made me feel good. But when I go back in, the innocent pictures of a refreshing glass of beer hit me the hardest. Sometimes I think it’s best if I stay away, but I do get other benefits from social media. I have unfollowed people who constantly post about drinking, but it’s hard sometimes because otherwise they’re fine people. It’s odd feeling so out of place sometimes just because I stopped drinking.

  • Jimmy

    Seeing and hearing about the drunken shenanigans of other people can be some of the best medicine for me and my recovery. In fact, seeing drunk people at all makes me glad I’m sober. But I guess everyone has their own triggers and has to be on guard for them.

  • Grace

    Thanks for the blog. It’s been very helpful. I recently landed a job as a paralegal with an attorney, which I thought would be fine. We both know my former boss. The new job has turned out to be a complete nightmare as my attorney-boss is a practicing alcoholic, drug addict, and has all of the attendant chaos and drama to go with it (problems meeting payroll, State Bar ethics violations to the hilt) and on and on. I would have NEVER taken this job if I’d known any of this. I lost another job with a reputable business to take this job. So now the State Bar is involved and The Other Bar (nice folks). I guess we’ll be “raising the bottom” on my now boss. I have never seen so many people enable one guy’s addiction. They aren’t being helpful; they’re helping kill the guy!

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